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How to find that special someone in 2013

Matchmaker and relationship expert, Susan Trombetti takes the mystery out of finding "the one," which may be easier than most people think.

 

Happy New Year to all of you singles. I meet a lot of people who tell me all the good ones are taken, there are no good men out there, and that women just want bad boys. There are a lot of New Year’s resolutions made about finding true love. My phone is ringing and emails are flying. People just want to find the “one." Often, when you are single, you may think you can’t find that person, and believe it is due to a combination of where you live, work, or your lack of a social life.

Sometimes you just aren’t sure why you haven’t met someone yet, and feel you are doing everything, yet that special someone remains elusive. I am here to tell you though, that often times, many “good catches” are right in front of you. Maybe you just need to change how you go about finding that special someone. Try a few of my suggestions below. If that doesn’t work and you need more help, feel free to sign up for Exclusive Matchmaking’s Stiletto bootcamp, or a coaching session designed to help you define a dating action plan, set goals and stick to them.

Break Your Own Rules


Break one of your major rules of who you won't date. Singles have so many requirements. Whether it is “no girls with tattoos” or “no short guys please,” because you prefer only tall, dark and handsome, 2013 is the year to date someone and break the mold. Think of all the failed relationships and false starts that met all your rules at the beginning of 2012.  Look for love outside your “love box." Maybe if you get over the hair color, tattoos, height, income and all the meaningless stuff, you just may find what you have been searching for all along.

Share and Show


Share and show your personality. If there is something that really reveals your personality, like a favorite movie, band, a charity that is dear to your heart, or a restaurant with special meaning, then incorporate it into your dating. With internet dating today, there seems to be less authenticity when it comes to communicating and conveying who you really are and what you are about. Stop and be sure to really reveal who you are. Take the time to learn about the other person sitting in front of you, since you are searching for a long-term commitment. Potential matches need to have a chance to see what is special about you.

Change Your Fishing Focus


We all have those primary places we go, hoping to catch the eye of that special someone. For some it’s the bar/club scene, for others it is the gym, or even online dating. In 2013, it is time for you to get out of your comfort zone! Volunteer for a charity and get involved in social functions. 

Bar/club scene folks, lose the alcohol and add some exercise. Maybe join a jogging group or indulge a hobby, so you can find a like-minded mate. I always recommend the Annapolis Meet Up group because it has a lot of members and a variety of fun activities.

If you haven’t tried online dating, try it out. Whatever it is you do to meet people, cast a wider net. Don’t go to social functions and sit in the corner. Learn how to be a social butterfly, flirt, make small talk, and meet your dream person. If you find you need more help, just don’t know how to flirt or these things don’t come naturally, check out our website

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